tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post6414138658632147026..comments2023-10-31T06:21:36.723-07:00Comments on Pink Preppy Party Girl: SPLITTING THE CHECK--Where is Miss Manners When I Need HerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-45270594166764916592008-09-02T14:13:00.000-07:002008-09-02T14:13:00.000-07:00Just found your blog - fun! Looking forward to re...Just found your blog - fun! Looking forward to reading through it.<BR/><BR/>Birthday dinners are often a tough situation . . . amongst most of my friends, the tradition is to split the check evenly, all splitting the birthday boy/girl's meal, unless the invite or situation (ie, hosted at one's home) clearly defines a host. I confess this is definitely my preference vs. separate checks for everyone. <BR/><BR/>We do have a few friends that insist on separate checks split by what was ordered. Without passing judgment on that, as I don't know their financial specifics, the end result is that we usually end up dining with them individually.Melissa @ I Pick Prettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12300398605721219551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-52305140418423959642008-07-24T12:31:00.000-07:002008-07-24T12:31:00.000-07:00I am horrified by people who try to add up what ea...I am horrified by people who try to add up what each person had. If you're in for lunch or dinner you're in. That being said I like midwest preps idea of doing a few things for the table if you can if you are hosting. Otherwise pay up or stay home!The Mrs.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05665800276194590859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-91791932215354039452008-07-22T09:31:00.000-07:002008-07-22T09:31:00.000-07:00It is ALWAYS an issue- some people never seem to l...It is ALWAYS an issue- some people never seem to leave enough money and some avoid the tip- It always seems to be a Tacky disaster! For my husband's birtday we went out to a nice restaurant with his closest friends and their sig others.( We aren't quite in a financial position to treat everyone) But because I wanted to off-set the cost for people who might not be in the same position as we are, I called ahead and purchased a few bottles for the table as well as a few appetizers. I made it clear that this would be paid for on my bill. It worked very well, our freinds felt treated- as did my husband, and everyone had a moderate bill with apps and drinks taken out of the equation. This has been my only success in this area-Seems like you did all you could! Sometimes things just go to pot.Midwest Prephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14151957575453498978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-54486475331594301182008-07-21T06:57:00.000-07:002008-07-21T06:57:00.000-07:00I agree with Esquire, just split it evenly...it al...I agree with Esquire, just split it evenly...it all evens out in the end!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00229152601081388804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-69682943541064814772008-07-18T15:59:00.000-07:002008-07-18T15:59:00.000-07:00In groups of 3 or less, my girlfriends and I tend ...In groups of 3 or less, my girlfriends and I tend to try to pay for what we ordered. In groups of 4 or more, tho, we split it evenly unless someone has ordered something special and wishes to treat (as you did with the sparkling wine) or unless there are special circumstances.Elizabeth Crum - "E!!"https://www.blogger.com/profile/03721855362174002781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-52528634927458126982008-07-17T02:55:00.000-07:002008-07-17T02:55:00.000-07:00Hi I finaly found your blog. I can't wait to get r...Hi I finaly found your blog. I can't wait to get reading, I've got so much catching up to do.BpVetGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015508523658407768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-87522541492900161962008-07-16T19:28:00.000-07:002008-07-16T19:28:00.000-07:00Hmmm - so tricky. I often ask to have my liquor pu...Hmmm - so tricky. I often ask to have my liquor put on a separate tab and most restaurants will do that & then split the rest of the check evenly. If they hem and haw I just skip the drink. The appropriate thing to do is to visit a restaurant that everyone in the group can afford and split the check evenly. But since you're clearly feeling self-conscious, perhaps you could have the group over to your home for cocktails one night or send nice, small thank you gifts for attending your soiree to even the score.ModernBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17418781034529176555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-53843697090741931922008-07-16T16:26:00.000-07:002008-07-16T16:26:00.000-07:00I tagged you! Check it out on my blog! ;)I tagged you! Check it out on my blog! ;)Muffyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09922563331499574218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-11318122382875991912008-07-16T14:03:00.000-07:002008-07-16T14:03:00.000-07:00I left you a little something on my blog. Hope it ...I left you a little something on my blog. Hope it helps. ;)Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14216941806907177541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-28952898308373885782008-07-16T11:03:00.000-07:002008-07-16T11:03:00.000-07:00I just order sparkling wine which I want to treat ...I just order sparkling wine which I want to treat everyone. Another woman brought a cake. So, I was trying to do something nice for the birthday girl and share it with everyone. Instead, they ended up paying for my gift. I think it would have been better for the woman who like a seperate check not to come or just come for a drink. This way, I would have paid for the wine in advance. That is what I will do in the future..still learning at 45.*Pink Preppy Party Girl*https://www.blogger.com/profile/07222584852781773286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-60012639107440206692008-07-16T07:51:00.000-07:002008-07-16T07:51:00.000-07:00I cringe is what I do! Unless everyone ordered sa...I cringe is what I do! Unless everyone ordered salads and one person orders lobster, leaving a HUGE difference between the orders, I think the check should just be split evenly. It's less complicated that way! If you are able to get separate checks, that works well too but many restaurants are not inclined to bring you 12 checks. I also find that when one party insists on paying for her exact amount consumed, another party ends up paying double because it never works out totally even and you can't stiff your servers. <BR/><BR/>Like I said....I cringe! I'm 30 and still have yet to feel comfortable when the bill comes with a mix group of friends.Preppy Pink Crocodilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396889798988617272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-11658675412561128162008-07-16T07:39:00.000-07:002008-07-16T07:39:00.000-07:00I agree iwth Esquire - evenly split is fine for ad...I agree iwth Esquire - evenly split is fine for adults. However, I do have 1 friend who doesn't have much money so when she and I go out for dinner, if I have a cocktail and she doesn't and I order a more expensive entree, we split it by what we got - that way she doesn't have to pay for my excesses. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Now, when I get invited to a birthday dinner, I expect to not only pay for my own entree, but to also pay for a share of the birthday lady's dinner. So if 8 women go out and it's one of the women's birthday, then the bill is split 7 ways and the birthday girl is treated. Is that not what happened here?Tippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01438443736653419988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5453993045244877062.post-45183638754697943212008-07-16T06:52:00.000-07:002008-07-16T06:52:00.000-07:00This is a sore point for my husband and some membe...This is a sore point for my husband and some member of his family. When I go out I usually try to have separate checks or to have it divided to the point where people pay for what they ordered. Otherwise it gets taken advantage of by others. <BR/>I agree in that having an event at a private home is best.Suburban prephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18395691728192716148noreply@blogger.com